How to fall back in love with your job

Remember when you first started your current job – how excited you were? How much love you felt for it. How you loved going to work. Has the novelty worn off? Is the honeymoon over? Has the reality of what you do every day kicked in? If you’re now in the twilight zone of your job relationship and feel a sense of dread on Sunday evening then something’s got to change.

It’s tempting to dust off your CV, give your job the old ‘heave ho’ and make a move to something new and more exciting. But before you do, consider if you can fall back in love with your job. Just like a relationship, you don’t have to go straight to divorce, with a bit of work you can salvage what’s good.

Here’s how to fall back in love with your job:

Take time to reflect

Make space to get a bit of distance from the day to day and have a good think about your job. This could be a holiday, a weekend away or even just take a day off. You need to get some perspective. Ask yourself three questions:

 – What do you enjoy about it?

 – What are the good bits?

 – Can you do it in a different way that will reconnect you with it?

Ask for what you want

Most managers want to keep their staff as it’s expensive and time consuming to recruit. Don’t sit in silence. Talk to your manager about the fact that you’re not enjoying things as much. Ask for some changes to make it work for you (which will ultimately help them too!).

They may not be able to agree to everything but if they can allow you to implement some key things it will help you feel appreciated and valued. Work out what would help – is it working on some different projects, learning a new skill or working from home one day a week? Getting what you want will contribute to how you feel about your job.

Change your view and mindset

It’s easy when you’re not enjoying what you do to get stuck in a negative frame of mind. This means you tend to focus on all the things you don’t like, and lose perspective on the reality. Make a conscious effort to focus on the areas that are good about your job. You will have to retrain your brain, and it will be tempting to fall back into your old views.

Focusing on the good is a much more enjoyable way to spend your time rather than moaning about things. Try to avoid other people who enjoy saying how awful the company or your job is and seek to reinforce your positive mindset. Choose a word to focus on that can help you stay positive.

Use your strengths

Research shows that we are happier and more confident when we can use our core strengths at work on a regular basis. Do a simple audit of how you use your strengths at work and look for ways you can do that more. Want to discover or remind yourself of your core strengths? You can take the free VIA Strengths Survey.

Plan to learn and grow

Take control of your own learning and development by being proactive about what you want. Check in with yourself about skills or qualifications that could either broaden your current role or help you become more specialist in your role. Look at a variety of ways you can access this from either formal or informal learning, and make a plan to avoid drifting. It’s your responsibility to fulfill your potential.

Fix the things that annoy you

What is getting on your nerves? Is it within your control to fix it? If it is then make some changes. It could be minor such as there is never milk in the fridge for tea or coffee. Organise a rota to buy it. It could be more significant such as your supervision sessions with your boss are always cancelled. Put it in writing that you would like to have them on a  regular basis. Whatever it is, try and resolve it, and if it’s out of your control, accept that you can’t fix it and move past it.

Do your utmost to make it work, to try and fall back in love with your job. But if it’s not possible, don’t stay in a job you don’t love – make a change, and if you need help with that please get in touch. Be happy always - How to fall back in love with your job

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Happy International Women’s Day!

This year’s theme is #PressforProgress and is focused on advancing global gender parity. The definition of progress is ‘development towards an improved or more advanced condition’.

We women certainly have the drive for this – in 2018 we celebrate 100 years since some women got the right to vote, and we see the rise of the #metoo and #timesup movements. It may feel we still have a lot to do especially since the forecast for us achieving gender parity is 2095 but everything we do on a daily basis counts. From how we raise our sons and our daughters, how we respond to inequality in the workplace or how we demonstrate leadership we are making a difference.

What would you focus on?

If you could choose an area to make a difference in what would it be?

I’m keen to focus on helping women leaders develop. In 2016 in partnership with the Peterson Institute for International Economics, EY  undertook a comprehensive study of gender inequality in corporate leadership. The sample size was both massive and global, surveying nearly 22,000 organizations across a wide variety of industries in 91 countries. The results were clear and consistent: a company with female leaders will outperform a company with none. If 30% of a company’s senior teams are women, its net margin will be six percentage points higher than a company with no women in their executive teams – wow!

Other research shows that companies with women in 30% of the leadership positions have an increase in “innovation intensity”, that women are better at logical thinking, planning, coordination and problem solving. This is all powerful evidence that shows that gender parity impacts the bottom line. It is still surprising that many businesses are not developing female talent pipelines in order to capitalise on these benefits.

Do one thing you can do today to boost your own leadership potential

Gloria Steinem, feminist and journalist said “The story of women’s struggle for equality belongs to no single feminist nor to any one organisation but to the collective efforts of all who care about human rights.” We all have to take responsibility for making big or small changes that will contribute to global parity. We can all be leaders – leaders in our own business, leaders in our community, leaders at work, leaders in our families, and we can all develop leadership abilities.

You can choose anything you like to boost your potential – I’m going to experiment. Cheryl Pinter-Veal, director of Partner Matters at Deloitte Services LP, said “Leadership is an R&D pilot all the time. You have to have the mindset that this is a laboratory and that all of these challenging experiences are opportunities to experiment. It can be a little scary—and it should. If you don’t have butterflies, you’re not learning.”

Don’t let Imposter syndrome or self doubt get in the way of your potential. I’m learning all the time in my business but I sense I need to push myself a bit more and up my game. I was recently asked about becoming a Trustee, which got me really excited, and while the organisation wasn’t right for me – the Trustee role is something I’m keen to explore.

The time is right for me to experiment with my business leadership and a community leadership role – what is right for you? Go on commit to something on International Women’s Day – make an intention to do something that contributes to your leadership potential.

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Are you fulfilling your potential? Part 2

Feeling fulfilled, challenged in a good way and with a sense of flourishing is what everyone wants from their career. To know deep down that you are meeting your potential and giving all you can. But if you’re not experiencing that  feeling on a regular basis is that it? do you just have to accept your lot?

My answer would be NO! You are in charge of you and that means you can find ways to flourish and fulfill your potential. You don’t need to wait for someone to allow you to or for the perfect job.

Last week’s blog looked at understanding your strengths and practice using them in a different way to start releasing some of your potential. This week we are going to focus on mindset and how that can enable your sense of development.

What kind of mindset do you have?

The academic Dr Carol Dweck used the terms fixed mindset and growth mindset to describe the underlying beliefs people have about their learning and intelligence. A fixed mindset is where people believe their intelligence and talents are fixed and therefore don’t tend to put effort into developing them. They also believe that success is determind purely by talent. Dr Dweck explains that,“in a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment.”

So what do you have?

How to increase or develop a growth mindset

  • Believe in yourself – You are capable of many things, and no matter what messages you have received about your abilities and talents, it is what you think that matters. So create a new intention for yourself that focuses on growth and hard work.
  • Don’t fear failure – Reframe how you feel about failure and don’t avoid it. Failing at something is one of the best opportunities to learn and grow. if you never try because you might fail you are missing so many chances to learn about yourself.
  • Build on your strengths – check out last week’s blog to discover your innate strengths and use this as a springboard to increase your self awareness and understand your gifts and talents. Choose areas you want to focus on to develop further.
  • Become curious – ask questions and indulge your curiosity. We can learn so much from people around us.
  • Challenge yourself – start small if necessary but identify what you need to feel challenged and go for it. Do something you wouldn’t have done before in either your personal or professional life or both. Challenges will keep you learning and growing.

Neuroscience is revealing more information about how plastic the brain is and how it can develop.Your mindset is therefore so important in developing your potential and staying stimulated and engaged with your career.

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Are you fulfilling your potential?

If you are achieving your potential or pushing yourself to your full capacity then you will be feeling energised, alive and challenged. You will probably be using your signature strengths and developing new ones, and your well being or ‘happiness’ will be high.

When we experience a sense of well being  and contentment it can increase our receptiveness to trying new things  and being open to new experiences. One of my favourite quotes is from Thomas Edison –

If we did all the things  we are capable of doing then we would truly astound ourselves

Probably the majority of the population is under performing and not realising their true potential. This is more than true if you’re not happy in your current role or are trying to change career. If you feel you’re not fulfilling your potential it can be frustrating and demoralising.

Where to start?

Your signature strengths are a good place to start exploring how you can develop your potential. Signature strengths are character strengths that are essential to who you are.

If you are interested in finding out what your signature strengths are, as a starting point to expanding your potential, then try the VIA strengths questionnaire at . Research has shown that by simply following and using our strengths we can gain insight and perspective into our lives, generate optimism, confidence and even an enhanced sense of vitality (Clifton and Anderson 2001).

When you have identified your strengths reflect a little on how you use them on a day to day basis, and challenge yourself to use them in a different way too.

Check back next week for a another idea to help you develop your career potential or get in touch for a FREE clarity call. Be happy always - Are you fulfilling your potential?

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